Patrick King The Art of Everyday Assertiveness

Last updated: June 27, 2022

Patrick King The Art of Everyday Assertiveness

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In our analysis of 16 expert reviews, the Patrick King The Art of Everyday Assertiveness placed 6th when we looked at the top 6 products in the category. For the full ranking, see below.

From The Manufacturer

Stand your ground without guilt, fear, or awkward tension. Finally get what you deserve and stop “letting it slide”. Who is making your daily choices for you? Make sure you possess the everyday assertiveness to choose for yourself and resist the pressures you’re bound to come across. You’ve put yourself last your entire life. It’s time for that to change. Stop enabling, people pleasing, and being so “agreeable.” The Art of Everyday Assertiveness is a guide for the chronically “nice,” “overwhelmed,” and “accommodating”. It is a deep psychological dive into what makes us lack assertiveness, and how to systematically combat those compulsions. It’s a book that stands apart from others because of the plethora of real life examples and solutions. If your problem is assertiveness, you’ll find the step by step answer in this book – included is a 28-day Assertiveness Action Plan unlike any other.Gain respect, set boundaries, and ask for what you really want. Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He’s also a recovering people pleaser who knows exactly how it feels to feel unable to speak his mind.Stop putting others first and being taken advantage of. How to balance assertiveness, accommodation, and agreeableness. How to practice self-acceptance, prioritization, and empathy. The instinct to over-apologize and how to fix it. The reasons that keep you compliant and willing. How to decisively say NO and reclaim your time and energy. How to ask for exactly what you want, when you want it. Saying NO with impact and grace. Understanding your subconscious thought patterns and beliefs. Who are you living your life for? Hopefully, yourself. Assertiveness is the first step to creating the life you want – not the life someone else wants for you, or taking care of someone else’s to-do list.What makes you happy? Do that. What makes you unhappy? Avoid that. If other people interfere with this simple credo, assertiveness is what will save the day.

Expert Reviews

What reviewers liked

It is an excellent, straight-to-the-point primer that can be digested relatively quickly. It has some very important and effective strategies for recognizing where one’s boundaries are currently, how various factors in our lives have led us to where we are, and the ways in which having poor personal boundaries can negatively impact every area of our lives.
Especially good were the techniques for saying “no”, which were not just assertive but also socially smart, and the connections that Patrick King established between assertion and effective social strategies, as seen from a social-exchange point of view -how to take your due credits, how to avoid making your social debt bigger, etc. It’s especially suited for people who are too passive, too nice, and who struggle with a sense of guilt whenever saying “no”.
This book would be ideal for individuals who have engaged in prior self-awareness exercises and know that this behavior is somewhat embedded in previous environments (e.g., childhood, school, or among a toxic friend group).

What reviewers didn't like

A bit too common sensy. I would like to see how much of the content is based on real evidence and how much of it is purely based on the author's opinion.
Sometimes I felt like the book was promoting selfish-interest a bit too strongly.
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